Update:

I actively went to speak to my wife's lover about the baby situation. She's kind of still wanting me, she kept looking at me and I me and I blatantly told her that I may look like a woman sometimes but that does not mean it will be more pleasant to sleep with me to make a baby. I mean it may be more pleasing to her eyes since she primarily likes women but biologically I'm not a woman. I am rather fond of that body part that she would need in the first place to make a baby. Mentally, I'm feminine, well duh I find that rather obvious. Heck, sometimes, especially when I crossdress I look like a woman but at the end of the day, sadly I am not a woman.

I told her she needed to clear things up because putting all this pressure on Lily is not good for anyone's healh. It's not good for Lily and not for us either. Us meaning her and me. Like, if she has a psychotic episode she'll most likely explode on us. Then I'll have to worry about the possibility of having my wife committed. So frustrating. Really.

So I told her that she needed to deal with this accordingly. She needed to or I would. She just looked at me and said that she wanted a baby and I said well she doesn't have to have it with me. That I could help her find someone that would help her. Maybe a nice gentleman that looks like a woman about as much as I do if that is more pleasing to her eyes.

I'm a patient individual but we need to deal with this situation. I am not going to watch this explode. Lily is already starting to talk to herself about this situation when she doesn't know I am in the room. Things are progressing slowly

So my wife's partner told me the other day that she wanted to have a baby. Mind you, there are four people in my marriage. Lily is totally willing to share me but the only other woman that she would totally be willing to share me with in that fashion is well-- not her. I am afraid that this is going to cause a problem because she said something about me having good genes and that our children and mine before Lily are beautiful as well. She kept admiring them.

Mind you she would look at my partner but ehhh---- he doesn't particularly like woman in terms of sexually. He has slept with maybe one woman and well it's my wife. Such a wonderful threesome we had. It was amazing. He does admit that she is the only woman he'll probably ever sleep with. Of course I am absolutely fine with that.

In other words, her partner might accidentally cause a psychotic episode or mental breakdown if she does not keep suggesting that me and her have sex. Lily is very open minded in terms of my past sexual escapades, especially as a sex addict. She doesn't mind my female lover. But sex is one thing, having a baby with me...... eh that is pushing it.

My life is about to go crazy yet again